They are empty sad individuals who either end up alone or make their partners lives a misery, whilst being Mr or Mrs Popular with everyone else. They do this by compartmentalising, being dishonest, and crazy-making with lack of transparency, manipulation, charm, charisma, humour, flattery and flirtation. This forum has strengthened me and given me my wings to fly. Never again will I be drawn back in to the flame to risk being burnt. I now can identify all the red flags I explained away…even to family and friends. I was able to see the person unmasked.
I am still fragile some days and I am only up to 3 weeks no contact. But I know in my heart and soul I can NEVER return. Thank God! I loved my elementary school, but I spent a lot of my classtime reading to or tutoring other students. My wonderful teachers gave most of their attention to disruptive or low-performing students and taught to the average level of the class. The material was always easy for me and my classes progressed at a glacial pace. My school tried to help by putting me in classes with older students and then transferring me to a gifted program across town. Both attempts were too much for me academically and socially.